“Fall in love with yourself, fall in love with life and THEN fall in love with someone else.”
Multiple times we hear the phrase “Love yourself first.” But, why is it important to love yourself first?
Self-esteem is defined as the confidence in our worth and respect we have for ourselves. When you don’t have a high level of self-esteem you have an inner critic voice telling you how you don’t deserve good things because you are not enough.
You need to identify this inner voice and challenge it. Talk back to it with what you want to believe about yourself instead of just accepting what is telling you.
Its so important that your self-esteem is high, because we usually accept the kind of love that we think we deserve. If you don’t think you deserve the best kind of love, you will settle for less. Settling for less is just gonna take you on a journey to loving yourself even less. Accepting and remaining in situations that you shouldn’t be having to deal with in the first place.
It is also important to identify the difference between self-acceptance and self-improvement. You can identify the things that you want to change about yourself and have goals for achieving it, but it doesn’t mean you don’t accept and love those things you want to change.
Self-esteem means you already recognized the things that you don’t like about yourself, but you have learned to accept them and still respect yourself. If you don’t like them, you will work on changing them.
Having self-compassion is important when identifying the things we want to change about ourselves in order to achieve self-acceptance. As said on FORGIVE YOURSELF learning to accept and forgive the things that got us where we are is the first step to changing them.
The moment we start being happy with what we are and know exactly how much our worth is, is the moment we stop accepting less than what we deserve.
Action Steps
- Identify when your inner critic is talking.
- Identify Who told you that?
- Make a list of this things.
- Write down a list of affirmations you want to believe instead.
- Look in the mirror, appreciate yourself and Repeat this list out-laud every morning.